In preparation for a short mission to cheer up a niece who needs her auntie, I was crossing tasks off my to do list this morning. One of the most daunting of the tasks was to retrieve my suitcase from the guest room/office closet. It is daunting because my second bedroom serves as both guest room and office, but also because it serves as art studio, storage, and a dedicated room for my medical supply when I am not actually using crutches or in need of my walker or the air conditioner. So, the closet–well let’s just say that opening the door can be a harrowing experience.
Long ago I learned the concept of “eating the frog” from a friend–doing the hard thing first, so the rest of the tasks seem less challenging and the thing you dread most is done, eliminating the dread. It’s based on the idea that if you had a bunch of things before you to consume, and one of them was a live frog, while the others were less disgusting choices, you should first eat the frog, and then allow the palate to rejoice in the other, less gross, items consumed after. So, a little before 9:00 am, I opened the closet door.
Thankfully, nothing fell on my head upon opening the door. And I rather quickly remembered the location of the suitcase and confirmed that it was, indeed, under all of the postal boxes. I set out to rearrange the items and acquire the suitcase stashed below.
Now, it is important to mention at this point that all of the movement, noise, and shuffling happening was due to the shifting of cardboard and foam inside my closet on the second floor of a two-story building. I will also remind you that it was nearly 9:00 am. And then, the thing happened that made me lose my shit. I heard banging on my floor–the ceiling of James, the downstairs tenant.
James has been told, repeatedly, that he is not, under any circumstances to bang on the ceiling. After I had been living here for about 10 months, he suddenly decided that he would yell obscenities at me whenever seeing me outside, and bang on the ceiling at ANY noise he doesn’t like–including my family sitting down to eat lunch during the holidays. This morning he did not stop banging. He just kept on doing it for about ten minutes, even after I had retrieved my suitcase and closed the closet door on the remaining mess.
I called my landlord. She said she can’t be a therapist, she is a landlord. But she did call James and tell him that ANY noise complaint goes to her and he is not allowed to bang on anything under any circumstances.
However, he said that there is constantly yelling at 4 in the morning and 8 in the morning and all sorts of noise. And that is complete bullshit.
This is the thing I am finding so infuriating today–and in the recent weeks, with all that has been going on in my life. There isn’t a way to effectively tell tellers of truth from tellers of lies if you aren’t in the situation. If you aren’t there to see the events unfold, you can’t necessarily discern what the truth of the matter is, which puts the crazy, insecure, jealous, dishonest, selfish, and self-involved people in the world on the same level as the ones who are truthful and altruistic and compassionate and working to make a better world for all. And that just doesn’t seem fair.
It isn’t enough to be a good person. Suddenly, you feel like you need to constantly prove that you are a good person.
That infuriates me. Because we should be able to somehow tell the difference. We should be able to know truth and see good and not be constantly deceived. Good people shouldn’t be dragged through the mud by those who have selfish or nefarious motives. But they are.
It didn’t take me long to realize that I don’t actually need to prove anything to anyone.
Truth will out, as they say.
Eventually, the good is recognized and the lies are exposed. I do believe that, even though I also believe that it could take decades, or generations for that to happen. It will happen. And a legacy of beauty and good and love and truth will be remembered as such, and the opposite will also be remembered as such.
It isn’t easy to let things unfold, and to let my name be dragged through the mud. It isn’t easy to live above the fray and to allow others to lie and misrepresent and harm without trying to fight back in some manner. But attempts to argue with those who don’t tell the truth or use logic or care about the heart of matters always fail. It is futile. The only way to get justice in these matters is to wait for the truth to become known.
It will become known.
So, no matter how infuriating it is to have a guy who is full of crap banging on the ceiling while I try to pack for a mission of love and compassion to cheer up my lovely niece (and cheer up myself, of course, because being with her is such a joy), I will swallow my pride, hope all the things stay behind the closet door, and let things play out in whatever way they will. Living in light and love will always be my best defense against any odds.
Now–to launder the clothing, pack things that don’t freak out the country folk (so basically nothing I own), and get ready for mission Return to NWIA. (I just freaked out a little. It’s been almost 4 years. I must really love this niece!)